How to Be A Grownup


This entire interview is gold but section I highlighted below really struck home with me. It’s not an issue I have nowadays, but used to struggle saying no to friends, especially when I had no good reason too. And it’s great to hear someone like Joaquin Phoenix say aloud something I’ve been thinking about for a long time. If you don’t feel like doing something, you shouldn’t have to explain to your friends why, just saying “no, thank you I’m good” should be good enough, that’s what adults do.

You can read the entire interview here.

FERRELL: [laughs] Well, next year I’ll invite you over to watch the Super Bowl.

PHOENIX: You don’t have to.

FERRELL: You don’t even have to watch it.

PHOENIX: I’m trying to do this thing where I’m being honest with people—I don’t want to come. But I’d love to come over to check out your bananas sometime.

FERRELL: Wait, say that again? You’re doing this thing where when you really don’t want to go somewhere, you just say, “I’m not going to go”?

PHOENIX: I’m tired of making excuses.

FERRELL: It’s okay as an adult to say, “No, I’m not going. I just don’t want to go.”

PHOENIX: Yeah, I mean, it is okay, but, just that, I have to, yeah, I can’t do it. [Ferrell laughs] It’s very nice of you to offer, but I won’t be doing that.